Friend Makin’ Mondays: Getting to Know Each Other

I am back from my wedding anniversary trip! I got home around 10 last night and found a very cranky, needy kitty waiting for me. It was a rough night, she really missed me. She had a lot more separation anxiety than she usually does.

We drove to Paso Robles from Palo Alto and spent a day wine and olive oil tasting. It was a very low key trip, but super fun. And now, no more wine as we’re embarking on another Paleo cleanse. I’m not calling it Whole30 this time because I know I’m not going to be as strict and Patrick’s only committing to 28 days. So Whole28(sorta) wouldn’t be a good name, now would it?

FMM

If you’ve taken part in FMM then you know the rules. If you’re new, please take a moment to answer this week’s question on your own blog then add your link in the comments section here at: http://www.alltheweigh.com so we can all see your FMM questions and answers. Please invite your blog readers to add their links here too so everyone has to opportunity to be seen. The idea is to connect with other awesome bloggers so take a moment to post your own FMM post and comment on a couple of other posts. Now it’s time for this week’s topic!

Getting to Know Each Other

1. What is your favorite flower? By the strictest definition of this, I’m going to say Star-gazer Lilly. But, I also love lilac blooms. They smell amazing.

2. What is a date on the calendar that you’re looking forward to? October 12 because my friend Amiyah will be home from Singapore briefly! I miss her. She’s there working for 2 years and I definitely intend to go visit.

3. List at least five characteristics of your ideal mate. Sense of humor, integrity, open-mindedness, kind, must love cats.

4. What is your favorite travel destination? I’ve only been once, but I’d love to go back to London and show it to my husband. I love that there’s so much history there and that things have been there for a long time. We take for granted what a young country we are.

5. What is your idea of the perfect date? I’m a fan of dinner and a movie! A chance to talk, a chance to get entertained, it doesn’t get much better than that. I know it’s simple, but sometimes that’s better than the more elaborate things. I’m sure zip lining in the rainforest is awesome, but I like just being present.

6. What is your relationship with your family like? I’m close to my parents. We talk once a week and I think of them both often. My mom and I have a little trouble with boundaries. My dad is difficult to get to open up. I love my extended family, but there’s lots of hurt feelings that taints things. My mom has a lot of half siblings and I’m not that close to that side of the family. They are nice and we sometimes spend holidays with them, but I didn’t grow up with them. All of my grandparents have passed.

7. What time did you wake up this morning? 7:14 officially, but my cat didn’t let me sleep much at all. So probably that could be MANY times.

8. What characteristic do you like most about yourself? Which do you dislike most? I really like my memory. I retain so much. It annoys my friends that I can recall the dumb things they do. It helps me with trivia. It helps me remember which cart I was in on a ride so that I can collect my sunglasses when that cart comes back through. True story. Dislike? I’m not brief at all. I have to express myself in way to much detail. I have a really hard time distilling things to their core.

9. What is your favorite sport to watch?I love hockey, but I think tennis is my favorite. Since I play it, I understand the rules well and I understand what a mental game it is. It’s almost as dramatic as wrestling to me!

10. Share a few interesting things that you did over the weekend. We went olive oil tasting and I realized how different olive oils can taste – not just the infusion oils. I also tried ghost pepper salt, which was HOT. Of course we went wine tasting. We also saw The World’s End at a theater in Paso and that was really a fun movie! Of course, I had fun just being with my husband since we usually spend the week days apart.

This is what olive oil tasting can look like after 2 wine tasting trips.  Messy!

This is what olive oil tasting can look like after 2 wine tasting trips. Messy!

Friend Makin’ Mondays: Personal Quirks and Habits.

Happy Monday! I’ve got a lot going on this week and am getting ready for my friend Amanda to visit! So my self imposed dry lifestyle will likely END once she gets here. It’s okay, it was the goal I had set. It’s hard to build muscle and keep my nutrition in order when I am drinking.

This is me and Amanda last year during my summer trip to Maine.  It was so humid and hot! This was the last time we were together.  Soon to be reunited!

This is me and Amanda last year during my summer trip to Maine. It was so humid and hot! This was the last time we were together. Soon to be reunited!

I liked this set of questions because I do consider myself pretty quirky. A couple were tough! I hope you enjoy reading them. If you haven’t taken part in Friend Makin’ Mondays, here’s what you do. Copy the questions and answer them on your own blog. Then, link your post on All The Weigh so we can all read our answers.

Personal Quirks and Habits

1. Share one unique character trait that sets you apart from your friends. I remember EVERYTHING. And I’m constantly recalling old conversations, reminding my friends of the dumb stuff they did. No one can get away from their past with me around to retell it to you.

2. List at least two pet peeves that always aggravate you. I’m not the grammar police. But I AM the science patrol. When people call an intestinal virus “stomach flu”, it pretty much is like fingernails on a chalkboard. An entirely different pet peeve is heavy, thick lower eye liner. You just have to put a little pit to enhance the last line, ladies. We don’t live in ancient Egypt where we have to protect our eyes from the sun.

3. Is there a word or phrase that you say so regularly that people expect to hear it from you? I’m from Maine, so I drop wicked occasionally. My SoCal friends love that. For awhile “Oh dear” was a constant part of my vocabulary; to the point where I thought my husband was going to implode. I picked it up from a coworker.

4. Are you a risk taker, or do you typically play it safe? Maybe a little of both? I’m at heart, a rule follower and a goody two shoes. But when it comes to staying within those constraints, I’m pretty fearless. (Unless it’s heights or spiders.)

5. Describe your life as it was in high school. Are you the same person? Have you changed? Oh dear. (SEE?) I was the quiet girl, I had acquaintances, and a handful of friends. I was very good at school, but I struggled with going to class. I definitely think I suffered from depression for many, many years. I completely changes in college. I’m way more outgoing. I have many, many friends and it’s easy for me to relate to people. I’m more confident, I’m assertive, and I don’t stay in the corner anymore.

6. What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done that you’re glad you did? I quit my job, packed up my apartment of 5 years, and followed the guy I had been dating down to Atlanta, even though I didn’t have an engagement ring, or a job. It was the right decision. Being with him makes me a better version of myself, and we’re now married and equal partners in our lives. I needed to shake up my life at that point. My job was stagnant, my Master’s degree was at a permanent impasse, and my friends lives were going in different directions from mine.

7. Do you ever talk to yourself? If so, share an example. I talk to myself occasionally, I talk to my cat all the time. My Grammy always said it meant you had money in the bank. If I’m doing something dumb, or if I’m stressed, I’ll have a talk with myself in the mirror. I work out of my home a lot.

8. Share something you did that unexpectedly helped shape your life. I allowed myself to make some pretty bad decisions. Things I KNEW were wrong at the time, but I did them anyway. I was involved with 2 men in particular, one in college, one after college, who were definitely “bad boys.” They had values and behaviors contrary to my own and dating them pretty much made my parents absolutely furious. It was the rebellion that I needed to experience, after being the most well mannered kid. Both of them made me see a different point of view in life and challenged my own thoughts and ideals that I had. The break ups were devastating, but the lessons I learned made me grow in a way I never could without them.

9. Do you follow a strict routine, or are you a free spirit? Are you somewhere in between? I’m more of a free spirit, which drives my friends completely nuts. I try and schedule important things, but I think the best part of life is the experiences you have in between the things you think are important.

10. Share something about yourself that you hope will inspire others. I’m 36 years old. I have my fair share of issues about my body image, my self-esteem, boundaries, lots of stuff from childhood, etc. I did some intensive therapy once a week over a year ago. I came in pretty broken and left stronger that I could ever imagine. When you need help, ask for it. If you need to see someone to talk to, there is no shame. No one has a perfect life and everyone feels the way you feel sometimes. You need to take any and all necessary steps to make yourself feel better.